I am 39. Single for seven years. In those seven years the longest relationship I had was a couple of months. For whatever reason I always seem to scare the men off. I met a man two months ago and was so happy with him. No longer lonely. We were both so happy together and it was the most amazing feeling. We both were enjoying the relationship and then out of the blue he ended things. This break up though came out of left field and was a real shocker. I really saw us together in the future...could see him in the long term because I had not felt that kind of connection with anyone in years and I KNOW he felt it too, or at least he sure acted like it. We got along so well, had so many fun times and laughs and were truly compatible and the chemistry was amazing. What more do you need? We just had a wonderful night together and I brought up the "relationship" question. We have been dating for two months seeing each other 2-3 times per week. He panicked and said he is not ready for the pressure of a relationship (feels pressured by me) and doesn't know what the future holds for us and then broke up with me cuz he doesn't want to hurt me. Too late! I am devastated and feel like he is making a huge mistake. We just planned a weekend getaway together and I finally started telling people about him, of course for it to only blow up in my face. He keeps saying we took things too fast and rushed and he can't just jump into a relationship that quickly and he wants to still see me as friends for now. I have no idea what to do. He says he cares for me and doesn't want to lose me or be enemies and wants to still see me but feels like something is missing and feels pressured to be in a relationship and he just doesn't want one right now. Mind you he has never been in a relationship longer than a few months and he even told me he has never been in love and doesn't fall in love. It's like he convinced himself of this before things even started with us but never clued me in. Now he is saying he wanted us to take things slow and start out as friends but he never said that before, and every time we were together he acted like my boyfriend (physically and emotionally and all of that) so I have no idea where that's coming from. I am so depressed and convinced I am unlovable. I really thought this was different. This was the first time I really felt like I was falling in love for the first time in many years and now I'm back to being the single spinster that I will turn into. I don't know if I should see him as friends and see what happens or what. I am so devastated and depressed I don't know how I'm going to get over this and how I will ever know when it's the right man because I really thought this time it was! I feel like it will never work for me, ever and I just want to crawl into a hole and die.