What I can't figure out is why everyone I know seems only to socialize at restaurants, which I can't afford. Or if I invite someone over, they don't reciprocate. In 15 years I've had various people over for dinner or lunch and only once did someone invite me back -- just for desert, because they didn't feel ready to have dinner guests, but that was fine! I would love to go to someone else's house for a cup of coffee and chat, even if they're folding their laundry at the same time. I'm finding it very hard to reach out at all anymore, but the only friends I have live out of state, so I'm alone too much.