Deli - with great affection - and remember this is coming from Mrs Avoidance, one who calls herself sittingatwatersedge because of a lifetime of avoidance -
self-therapy is isolating, and comforting, and safe in a sense (the safety of distance) - but it may not be safe in the sense of finding the right path.

Events are deemed "traumatic" when the person is powerless to deflect or escape them. The events come from outside; you could say that no one suffers trauma alone.
Because of that, it's not possible for someone to heal him/herself of traulma alone. I find this in Herman, in Chu, in Walker, in numberless authors who have a lot of experience in healing trauma.

The idea of healing myself is attractive but I fear it's futile. What is it that St John of the Cross said - "A blind man who falls will not be able to get up again, if he is alone; or, if he does, he will take the wrong road."
I've only got so much time left; I fear taking that wrong road.