fctwinkie,

First, welcome to the forums, I'm glad you found us.

I agree with Rapunzel and Sam's feedback. Your daughter should have a complete psych evaluation before being allowed to return to your home. And then depending on the result, maybe not even then. You said that she has abused you physically, and I would take the death threat very serious for that, if for no other reason. Has your husband read what she wrote? If so, I'm curious what he had to say about it.

The important thing here is that if you really feel threatened and scared, and you're not receiving any support, then you need to do whatever it takes to keep yourself safe. If that means leaving, then that's what you should do. Has all of the problems with your daughter just started lately, or been going on for awhile?

This is a terrible position for you to be in, but I hope that you're able to work everything out and get your life settled back down. Please visit us all you need to, sometimes it can really help to vent.

All my best,
bptoo

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."