Here, too, if you live together for about 6 months or introduce each other as husband and wife, you are common law. If children are involved, you ahve to get a divorce.
He may be afraid of the committment. If you want to , ask him. Make it romantic. If he says no, then you were not nagging, just asking.
I asked my husband. He was afraid. He said no. I did what I felt I needed to , for myself. He came around. The next time, he asked me. But, he had a really bad first marriage.
About him seeing his mom all the time; my husband goes to see his mom almost everyday. I used to feel bad about that. Then I lost my mom. I now encourage him to go by and see her. He has only one mother...ever. Ane she is almsot 80 , a widow, living alone, & he is the only surviving child. Yes, he needs to see her, as often as he can. And I agree with the respect statement....he is a really GOOD man.