Hello 50wife,

This is a minefield. It is difficult for me because I was married to a po and his affairs were legendary. He also used to say things like "I didn't want to appear rude to her"; needless to say I was miffed but he was full on all the time...He was having an affair with his secretary (police ancillary worker/public service), but he was having affairs on her too he couldn't lie straight in bed...the bastard...I found photos of him with other women, I saw official dinner photos where he'd told me that wives weren't invited but the other guys had their wives there. He even did this to me when he officially retired. He took his secretary instead of me.

He would do dreadful things in public in front of me, and I really can't discuss what they were because it's not appropriate here. I had more proof than I needed and I left more than once. But he would always charm me back...I wonder now why I was so stupid in going back and putting up with it all in the first place...I also wonder why he wanted to keep me? Why was it important to him that he had this wife he cheated on and excluded from official functions except when his secretary wasn't available. I admit I was a great housewife...was being the operative...since I left I've hardly done anything and only touched an Iron about twice...He literally riuned me...made me useless

Now this is only my story, so it doesn't mean your husband is cheating...but rather than guessing, get one of those women who catch husbands out by coming onto them, they then report it to the wife... Don't know what it costs but it night be worth it for you? Or call Cheaters...wouldn't that be an episode to watch? Don't even know if they have that show still going...

I really wish you well on this...in one way it can be heartbreaking but in another it can be liberating...but I'd want to know how and why that woman got his number...

Rhiannon