Hello kittenmitten

I can understand the issue with your grandmother and I think that is what you want some advice about.

If you're nearly 20 you are grown up and are old enough to make your won decisions. I think however that your grandmother doesn't see you as grown up...grandmothers never do...gosh they don't even see their kids as grown ups.

But you need to sit down with your grandmother and tell her that you are being hurt be her refusal to even try to get to know him let alone like him.

Tell her you are old enough and that you have had her example to show you what is right and to show you how to make sensible decisions. Let her know that you love her so dearly and that you are very grateful for all the love she has showered on you; but now it is time for you to be happy with this man. Let her know that you won't do anything silly and that you respect yourself well.

I think she needs reassurance that everything is going to be ok. And if she is a sufferer of panic and anxiety it is not going to be easy for her, so try to go very gently,

Rhiannon