Hello sara,

I agree completely with Lynn and marie. Take some time out allow yourself to heal and then if you want another relationship be careful who you choose and what they are like. What some people don't undertsand is that 8 months is nothing and the reaction to this sort of thing happening in a "relationship" is really very normal for a great deal of relationships.

Younger women are far too trusting far too early and they throw themselves into a relationship far far too early and then wonder what went wrong. Remember one thing...most (not all) men of the 16 - 26 age bracket are more interested in nailing sex than developing a relationship. That isn't me being rude or cruel or judgemental, it is a biological and mental fact.

Also with him jumping out of the relationship with his gf straight into a relationship with you doesn't bode good for your relationship it is called rebounding and it happens in a high percentage of relationships that break up. I don't give many relationships a high chance of success when someone leaves their partner for someone else, it is just something that tends to fail.

I have a very healthy respect for women who take things one day at a time and enjoy the developmental stages of a relationship rather than throwing themselves in boots and all only to find they moved too fast and get hurt.

Brush yourself off and be glad that you were not stuck with a cheater, there are much better men out there than this one...and you deserve a much better one...work on yourself you deserve to...

Rhiannon