((((((sunny)))))

i didn't even read that t's quote and i probably won't. i can tell you though that it doesn't apply to you sunny from what you described. just look at the incredibly difficult work you did in your last session regarding your dad. i think there is always a balance between doing our part and allowing others to help us. some of us do too much ourselves and have to learn to rely on others more and others do too little themselves and need to learn how to rely less on others so much. from what you wrote i think this t is talking about people who do the latter. i definitely don't see you being someone who relies too much on others. i also have trouble acknowledging my needs because i was taught it is shameful to be needy. eh, we all have needs. there is no shame in it.