uoffl, i'm sorry you are in this situation and i know you really love your bf. i would wait and give him the opportunity to tell you his decision. there is always that slight chance he'll come thru for you and move with you and you won't know unless you give him the opportunity. if you don't, you may always wonder "what if?" i do think you should continue with your own school plans and if he is committed to you then he will follow you. you were willing to go where he wanted and now is his turn to show you the same courtesy. while i'm not sure putting up a wall in your heart is a good idea maybe you can prepare yourself mentally in case he decides not to follow you. whatever happens please know we are here for you.