The author said a T can't give an adult the loving that they missed; you have to give it to yourself. I disagree because at my last session my T did give me some of what I missed! She says it's okay to have those needs and for her to fulfill them. She agrees with the author that the goal is for me to meet them myself, for me to comfort my inner child and not for her to do it. But that is a goal, something to work towards. So, maybe I am a needy client, but for the first time in all of my therapy, a T is meeting those needs and I feel better!

sunrise, you don't fit into the category of a needy client--no way. I fit it, but my T is well aware of it, and does not feel like she is "rescung me".