Well, I guess you wouldn't want a therapist who uses non-judgmental listening techniques, then. From what you had written earlier, I had thought it might be helpful to you, but I guess not. Why did you use the "pissed off" smiley? Who do you mean is not thinking clearly? The technique is what it is and has been helpful in international reconciliation. I don't see that it is mislabeled with the "wrong" word. It is probably very accurately labeled. It just isn't a technique that would be personally useful to you in therapy.

Well, it was only about 2 years ago for me--not that long ago. So some contemporary therapists do do it. They wouldn't know you want to though unless you inquire.

I do think the client can help manage the therapy. That doesn't mean the T doesn't know what he/she is doing. It just helps make the therapy provided a better match for the client. Why would a client not want that? My T provides different things to different clients, because every client is unique. For example, we switched from 50 to 90 minute sessions when the shorter ones weren't working when we went to longer intervals between sessions. I told him the problem (unproductive sessions, difficulty reconnecting, etc.), and he came up with the solution (longer sessions). I wouldn't want a therapist who doesn't take client feedback into account. I do think there are therapists who want to take the same approach all the time and not listen to the client, and these would be therapists to avoid. Pachyderm, you have thought so much about what would be helpful to you in therapy, and that would be very valuable information for the therapist. But it takes the right T because some are more rigid than others. It probably helps if you can start with someone who is as close to what you need as you can find, and then the changes needed are smaller and easier to accomplish. Then you are back to "how can one find such a T?" I think that speaking to them in person is going be essential, when you are ready, because as you have noted, the websites do not help that much.

I remember a few years ago I saw an ad from a brand new therapist who was offering to provide therapy to people for free, just to get some experience. I wonder if a newbie like that might be open to a client walking in the door, saying he wanted to try this type of therapy he had read about, and could the T try it? Maybe the T would be willing.... (And this would help offset the negatives of being with an inexperienced practitioner.)