I like that idea too... that ppl think we have enough "other" ppl in our lives to cover us... but, like you said Dexter, even after telling the few that we don't , they don't step up to the plate! I, too, have bought dinners, tickets to events , etc just to not be too much of a burden on a friendship and to be able to enjoy their time. Yet, not pushy, just knowing it would be more of a stretch for them (and maybe trying to eliminate any excuses could for them turning me down?) Maybe that's part of it? Maybe they feel like they owe us.. you know? Like family...never loan money to family or friends.. you'll never see them again???

While I'm here, let me say I'm glad to see that you are receiving the support you need here. In another of my few threads I began, some members have taken time to attack me directly, rather than support me. I hope I never become that way... and I hope I can always say something to help you Dexter... you are one of my favorite members here ((((((((((hugs)))))))) xxooxxoo