while I appreciate the above poster's comments, I never said it was completely the guy's fault. my point is that i keep attracting men who are emotionally unavailable. when you say I don't have to date them what are you talking about? the whole point of my post when I say I attract these types is obvious that i'm dating them...that's the point..that i'm dating commitment phobes. this is not a post about why i attract commitment phobes as friends, it is about why i keep dating these types so i don't really get what you are pointing out.