sarah i like the way you think, it is good to take time and come back with a fresh persective, for that i commend you, the guidelines are just that ,guidelines, a marker from which to work from, in this forum not everyone is within the guidelines all the time, that cant be helped, but knowing there are mods and admin out there who can and do help is a big help to the rest of us

ps, i dont ignore anybody, ever, i am not able to do that, i believe i can overcome the differances between persons, no matter what the situation, even if it means i back down first.