Yes, when others try and put guilt upon us, it's really our choice whether we accept their guilt trip for us or not. If I choose to ignore someone, or make any other guideline for my own best interest, why should I beckon to their ideas anyway? lol makes no sense! I would be taking advice from the very ppl I had decided don't have my best interest in mind! It isn't easy in general, and it is easy to feel "left out" , but it sure is less stressful, the rest is MY problem to deal with rofl tc