I think we are becoming hung up on some of the words like "needy". We tend to see ourselves as needy but don't want to see ourselves like this therapist sees the "needy" people who come to see him.

All of us need help and support, that's why we go to therapy! That's not being "needy' in this therapist's sense I don't think. I think his "needy" goes with his "suck dry" people; if you're not out to get without giving/working on your issues, then you aren't needy in his sense.