Rhiannonsmom,
I am sorry this is so distrubing and scarey for you. I have what my therapist called a "splintered personality" we had not done enough work for her to be comfortable with the diagnoses of DID. I do not hear the conversations. I just have people tell me the things that I did and I was either asleep or cannot remember what i was doing.
I have three that I know of, Me, Tiger Lady and the Little Girl. I had seen them in my dreams for years, that is where I would hear them. Tiger Lady is all about blunt brutal honesty. She says there have been too many lies and it has gotten us hurt so NOW is the time to stop it. I know the Little Girl is timid and sits in a room, bare walls, a mattress on the floor, no sheets adn she wears a flannel night gown with tiny pink rose buds on it. She stays cowering in the corner and is terrified of Tiger Lady....or maybe the truth of it all. I wear the face that makes everyone think everythign is ok. I ahndle the drama and the emergencies and caring for others. I keep anyone from seeing inside.
But yesterday was a new one. I had never seen that one. It came with a great painless explosion in my head, follwoed by a brilliant white light that I could see, even when my eyes were closed. I was fully aware, I did not lose time, but I was different. It was a mellow child, the feeling was like sitting on the edge of the creek with you bare feet in the cool water, listening to the birds churping in the trees. It amzed adn terrified me, but that one would not let me keep the fear, it shoved it in a hole adn comvered it up. It would not let me talk...I tried, but could not. But I could see and hear everythign going on around me, but i could feel nothing, not even the pain I feel every minute of everyday...it was all numb.
Know this, you are not alone and we may all be stummbling trying to find our way, but stumbling in the dark is alot less scarey when you are holding the hand of a friend....we are all here.

Much comfort and safe hugs...