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Often times we are our own worst enemy. Are you breaking up with him because you want to end this relationship or to manipulate him into changing his behavior? I am not attacking you, I would like you to examine your own motives so that your next relationship will be a healthy and fullfilling one.
You've mentioned many of your own issues here (your family, previous relationships) and until you deal with your own issues, you are bound to keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again.
When relationships are new they are like an addiction. At some point life intrudes upon the honeymoon stage and the relationship moves onto the next stage. Relationship + life. Some of the urgency is gone, but the return is a more mature relationship. It is unrealistic to expect that honeymoon stage to last indefinately.
I am truly sorry that your family has let you down. I cannot even comprehend what it is like not to have them to depend on. My youngest son is in his first (perhaps last) serious relationship. One of the reasons I love that young woman so much is because she understands that sometimes my son has a family that loves him as much as she does. That child has an identical twin brother. I have been somewhat jealous of the relationship that they have had from birth.
We include her in every family outing, because she is in fact part of our family now. But there were a few bumps in the road. They only have eyes for each other when they are together. His twin in particular was a bit annoyed that even when they (twins) spent time together, he was constantly texting his girlfriend.
This is the circle of life, sometimes it takes a minute to establish a balance.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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