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I almost called off my wedding in the eleventh hour. In fact the only reason I didn't was because my parents would have killed me. I'm glad that fear kept me from making a foolish decision. My husband is the most caring considerate person I have ever met, I am very blessed. BUT we've all been foolish in our lives.
When we married, he was in the military stationed 8 hours from our area. He would trade duties so that once a month he could leave his base right after work and drive the 8 hours to spend time with me for the weekend. He would leave me exactly 9 hours before he had to report for duty again.
He took leave to marry me in December. In November he made that duty arrangement, not to see me, but to go to hunting camp with his family. I was SO angry, I cannot even tell you. This was long before cell phones or internet. I was so hurt. I was so sure he was going to "surprise" me and show up after dark. He can go hunting with his family during the day, but surely he could come see me at night. I only lived an hour from his hunting camp!
They went into the local town "to pick up supplies" (ie beer) and he called me from the bar/gas station/store. I was LIVID. He could travel 30 minutes in the opposite direction to buy beer with his family but he couldn't drive an hour to make me happy? He thought he was being nice, calling me to let me know he was thinking about me and loved me. All it did was make me more angry.
I still think he should have come and seen me for an hour or so. But I understand that he was continuing the tradition with the male members of his family. Just because I understand it, doesn't mean I have to like it.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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