Yoshi - you're very wise for your years and that's refreshing....good for you. You're right, you can't just bounce into another relationship before healing from the last one, otherwise you take all the baggage into the new one. Just be honest and say you're not ready but you still want to be friends. He does sound like a sweet person. I'm glad you go for a good heart above all other things. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and always trust your instincts.