OH and another thing has occured to me. When you were going to therapy and your husband was complaining that you were "changing" and that it cost too much.

He was trying to get you not to go because he was afraid he'd lose control of you and wouldnt be able to manipulate/abuse you anymore.

That's all that was.

He was upset that his little world in which he takes advantage of you would come crumbling down and he couldnt stand the thought of you actually standing up to him, looking him square in the eye and saying "I'm not taking your **** anymore!" (which really is what should happen)

You really are too good for all of this crap he makes you put up with.