Mel, when ever I am in T the mode/ego state/perspective that is dominant is my adult, professional, problem-solving persona. Like you describe after the session the other aspects of me often surface and all heck breaks loose in my head. I find myself (selves) challenging what I've said during the session. IDK I'm sure thus happens to some degree with everyone. Kind of like hind sight is 20/20. I guess different Ts handle this differently but my T allows me to express and vent those other parts reactions after my session via email. Which has helped me a lot. HOWEVER, my T has never promised to reply to these expressions. I know she reads them, but she doesn't always respond. The way I see it...I am free to vent after the session and gain personal relief from that release, but I cannot expect her to continue the dialog unless she feels like it. I think this approach works for me because I've LEARNED that her silence is not necessarily a bad thing. In my case my T cares and wants to hear from all aspects of me what is going on, but I am not her main priority out side my schedule appointment time. And personally, I like that she takes care of herself.

Sorry, when off topic a bit... Mel, other than emailing your T when you realize that what you said or how you reacted during the session was not consistent with what was really going on inside? For me writing the emails often helps me (the collective) see and acknowledge how my different parts feel or see things. Once these thoughts and feeling are exposed to myself...IDK the collective seems to work on them and healing happens. Now...I like to express and share what's going on with my T, but...really this exercise is most helpful because in doing so I express and share them with myself. I benefit from it whether my t actually reads my email or not.