Hello, I need advice or comfort to go forward. I have been dating this guy for about 2.5 years who is finishing up with a divorce. He has a daughter also about 11 years old and I have a son that is 8 years old. I introduced him to my son about 1 month in the relationship, and he finally introduced me to his daughter about 1 year later. On the 4 occasions he did bring her over, my son and his daughter didn't click very well. Every problem with my son or his daughter I would disscuss with him. I always encouraged that we talk to the kids to see if we could have a common ground so we could be happy. His response was that she is a divorcee child and she needs this relaxing time. I disgreeed with him and encouraged him again to talk to the kids with me. Every incident with the kids was very petty, but I believed it still needed to be addressed. He disagreed with me. Then since I didnt resolve this with his daughter and my son, my son wanted to stay at his grandmas when she was over the house. That made me very sad. I tried to encourage my son to try harder, but he refused. Several months passed till Aug 1, when I had a small finacial problem. I went to the boyfrend to ask him to help me this month and I would pay him back after the first check at my other job. He refused and said He wouldnt because I wasnt very nice to his daughter. Then he left.

My question is how can I fix this, or can it be fixed. I always went to him when there were issues that needed to be addressed but he ignored them. Then he breaks up with me. I dont understand.