So, I am 15 years divorced from a transgendered man. He has had surgery and now lives as a woman. Today I was faced with his online presence and PANICKED!

I realized I have been living in fear for FIFTEEN YEARS that he will try to contact me or to somehow touch my life. I know all the basics... the only power he has is the power I give him... He hasn't tried to reach me in 15 years, why would he now... The only one being hurt by this is me...

I avoid literature, movies, and discussions regarding transgendered people. I have a lot of gay friends, but I don't discuss sexuality with them.

I am in a loving, healthy relationship. He knows about my ex, but he is as surprised as I am to find that I am still so upset by him after 15 years.

And yet, I am still afraid. Has anyone else dealt with something like this? I don't want this guy having ANY power in my life.