Hi looking4polaris!
A very good question! I definitely understand your concern. I often think that too, even if a have made some real progress and have a lot of days when I can see how brilliant he is, but then, there it is – the doubt – what if he is just mediocre?

For me, the doubts always come with the transference and when he frustrates me, “forces” me to progress and I resist. At those times I always thinking; Hello! Therapy is not supposed to be like that! Something most be wrong here! Why do I feel like crap? The doubt is one way I show my resistance in my process of change. The doubt is something I can use against my self, because I’m willing to do whatever it takes to get rid of my past, and the “little” resistant part inside of me know that and use it “against” me. This resistant part gets "his!" nourishment from my doubts. But it seems like I’m on my way out of this scenario, finally!

When my T is frustrating me, it stirs up repressed feelings. This feelings come from within, but I have a tendency to blame it on my T – you made me feel this way and you… but after a while, often on my way home, I start to “own” my feelings, can link them to the past, mourn my loss and so it goes on and on and on...

I have made a list of what I like about my T as a reminder when the transference reaches its peak. And it is long!

Maybe this excerpt can be of any help.

“It can be very confusing. Therapy is not a tea party. The best therapists push you past the point where you're smug and comfortable. They lead you to make changes in your life, even though you want to stay stuck in the same safe ways you've been stuck. They won't accept your self-flattering claims at face value. All of these practices can make you hate your therapist sometimes.

But I'll be blunt. If your therapist isn't pushing you past your comfort zone, you're probably not getting your money's worth.”
http://www.revolutionhealth.com/blog...-hate-my--7060