>>i guess i didnt think this over very good before opening my mouth.

On the contrary, these are very real thoughts and very real feelings that we all share at times. I think it is a great thing to bring up and a great thing to discuss because it effects a lot of people here (including myself) and is something often not mentioned.

Especially in the context of depression, where the depression itself can put things way out of perspective for us at times even when there is evidence to the contrary, which is often not the case. (The numbers do seem to reassure our most negative thoughts about this very often.)

I think it is important to bring this up, point out that in some cases it may be depression coloring our expectations, at other times it may just be that a post or series of posts does get passed over, but that doesn't mean there is something wrong with us or with posting good things, sometimes it is just the nature of a large community.

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I realized in my original post I addressed one thing and ignored another... I addressed why if this happens, someone should try not to take it too personally or feel bad about themselves because of it...

But I did not address that fact that this topic should also encourage people from paying a bit more attention to the issue, maybe making a point of replying more often when they are able (I mentioned above reasons why at times some people may find it unsafe for themselves to post, but sometimes others are just shy or don't realize that their voice can make a difference).

So that is another good reason for bringing this up mrb. And for people who are just shy, maybe it can be a positive thing for them too to realize that they can make a difference by posting something simple.