I had the opposite situation...I lived with my man for 7 years. We have both been married before. He wanted to marry 5 years before I was ready to go there again. If someone has been through the pain of divorce....it is scary to put yourself in that position again. We celebrate our 3 year wedding anniversary on 8/25, but have been together for 10 years. Sometimes it's difficult to lose your baggage...but...it does happen.