I don't know. I thought it was a good article, but very revealing about the writer. To restate the obvious, if you feel compelled to go to therapy for forty-five years (!) there's really something wrong with you. Something that none of your therapists is addressing. It could be that what's "wrong" with you is temperamental, i.e., inherited and genetic. Which isn't going to be helped by traditional therapy. But the holdovers from the old days (in terms of therapists) just don't have that in their world view. I wouldn't ever DREAM of seeing a therapist who's eighty years old!

The above comes from personal experience. In my twenty-five years in therapy the problem was mine, all mine. I'm not quite sure what kind of metaphor I should use here, but in a way it was kind of like having my head full of concrete. Able, literally, to "hear" the comments a therapist said, and to remember them, but not able (at all) to absorb them and process them and react to them. One therapist in the early eighties compared me to someone with catatonia, looking me straight in the eyes. And all I could do was register the comment and say uh-huh. The defenses I built up as a small child were/are so incredibly powerful and pervasive that in the relatively old days I could sense vaguely that in some way something big somehow was wrong, but even with the help of a therapist I couldn't think about myself, my history, or even the pain I felt. The writer of the article sounds not only articulate but reasonably self aware, so that may not be her problem. But if anyone goes to therapy for forty-five YEARS, something's wrong somewhere.