Thanks you everyone for your insights. Many good things to thinkabout.

My T is also my pdoc, so sometimes I have to keep those two parts of him separate. He does that pretty well. I just have to remember, Oh he's being pdoc now.

T is very calm and caring. Nothing ruffles his feathers at all. He always has the perfect reaction to whatever I bring up.

He does not push - ever (but sometimes a poke or two would be helpful )

He doesn't lead me to say anything or ask any questions (Even when I need help figuring out what I'm trying to say)

He doesn't write down a lot, but does a fair job of remembering things throughout our time together. He is lousy at remember the big important stuff and should consider marking those down

To put a positive spin on this, I will say that he is teaching me to hande my own crises by not answering his ememergency pager about half the time I've needed to use it. Also, he's terrible at returning phone calls. Sometimes they just don't get returned (very annoying when it's about scheduling)

Overall, he seems to be doing the right things, and we are comfortable together. It just seems like we are game pieces and you could change out either one of us and it would keep going just fine. I'm not sure it matters who's sitting there doing the talking just so long as the space is full.

I'm just not sure.