"I finally ( @ age 23) set a deadline for him to have a job and then one for him being out of the house. I explained that I was crippling him, by what I thought was help. I told him he was past the time of being a man and needed to laern to depend on himself.
It was very emotional; for me and him....I have always been a "mother hen". He is now working full time and driving...something he refused to do...and I learned yesterday that he has a love interest.
I even learned of him driving down to Houston for his job, in a company van, I was awed....my nervous little hermit is finally becoming a man, but i had to let go...I was strangling him in the name of helping him....I had to back off.
Not sure if you can relate to any of this, but it might help.
Good luck and you are in my prayers.[/quote]

Thank you Nupoet I have been so worried. I tend to worry anyway. My son has also mentioned seeking his own place once he finds employment, and once we are all settled in. I guess the empty nest syndrome is also in there. I feel so much better Nupoet. Thank you again.