Wow, hard situation. I am still connected to abuse through other parts because of similar things. When all parts aren't on the same page, it doesn't work for me, and I rarely seem to be on the same page with other parts...

Does your girlfriend have a therapist? In therapy, T and I are working on getting communication so we can be on the same page so we can get out of a few situations. Outside of that, I'm just not sure. Hopefully someone else has some good advice.

I'm sorry you're struggling with this though. I hope you will find hope and answers that you are looking for.