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Originally Posted by Perna
I would also try to talk to your children's mother, as an individual, one who has had her life perhaps even more affected by this than you were? She was not educated at all and has not been out in the world at all and has "no one". Why would she "go", WHERE would she go? It would be all humiliation for her and she has no resources at all except you.
I would not abandon her though, would try to help her, as she would like to be helped, maybe with schooling or some craft she enjoys or with moving somewhere she has friends or family who would love to have her. I would work on splitting up together so you don't have any sense of guilt when it is finished.
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Perna you've humbled me again. I am always in awe of your honesty and your level of natural intelligent compassion. I automatically presumed which is something we should never do, that she would enjoy her own life.
I think that way because I was so happy to get out of my marriage and when I hear of people being unhappy in a marriage I think they should leave it. Interesting how we transpose our own thoughts onto others situations...and I had been working on not doing that...BACK to the drawing board for me...
Thank you so much for your wisdom, compassion, tutelage and honesty. Everything I read of yours I learn from and I love to learn
Only,
I don't think anyone could have given a better response
Rhiannon