So I have come to understand something, but it hasn't really led to a change in my behavior yet, so I'm just trying to work it out here. Maybe it will be good to share what I've learned, and maybe you all have some useful feedback!

I am a snoop. I am deceitful, and sneaky, and I will go through everything. I know all your passwords. I'm in your email, in your phone, in your bills. I have accounts on all the websites you frequent, and you don't know it's me. I also log on as you, and read everything that's private. I go through your browser history, and your trash. I worry that, like me, you also have "secret identities" and worry that in spite of all my dilligent digging, I am missing things.
What exactly is the point of all this????
The problem with snooping is, there is always something to find. It's not always something big. It's not always: oh no, my wife has cheated on me! oh no, my husband is using coke again! oh no my partner lied about where they went out of town - It can be really little things: an old email where he called you a b***h to his cousin while irritated with you, or an old photo of the ex that they probably don't even remember is there, or any number of small little things that I can take out of context and blow out of proportion. We all have little secrets, little skelatons in the closet, there is always something to find.
So given that I know and recognize this, what exactly do I hope to get out of doing so much digging? Goodness knows I have secrets. Nothing big, just little minor things that truly aren't important, but things we're better off not worrying over.
So why don't I quit it already? I'm really frustrated with myself today.