I've always found those that glorify their caring are over compensating for inner lack of empathy. It becomes almost like mass delusion, one person sees candles laid at a road side and they copy that.

For me I have to go inside myself and think about what I am feeling and dont have a need to become symbolic in my caring.

Its like when our soldiers return home in coffins and the news now has a regular bit of road side for their cameras to catch every tear and sorrowful act from onlookers and family and now the family isn't just mum, dad, sister, brother it becomes more extended and cans of beer in hand and bigger and bigger flowers, its becomes grotesque almost. Yes somewhere amongst all the media circus there is real sorrow, but a lot of it feels to be false and self pity and the news crews caring more about who can get the more moving clip. We have to step outside of society's norms sometimes and ask ourselfs "what do I feel", sometimes thats all thats needed.