T always use to say when I said "therapy was putting the pain there", no the pain was always there, just your more aware of it now and once aware can address it rather then it leaking out in all other ways, and then when I said the pain felt to much to bear, she'd say "thats actually a positive, it means you are stronger now and care feel it", of course, none of which I wanted to hear at the time, but something that I needed to hear to help me keep going forward, and one does, and it does get better, then a little worse for a while, then a bit better again, and each time I arrived at the little bit better stage, there was change, I actually felt stronger.