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Originally Posted by neri
The few friends I told about this are totally making this worse, by rooting for the girly half of the brain. They say (and I find this odd since they're all engaged or whatever) that him being married is not an obstacle but merely a speed bump. They would interpret his sayings and doings the same way that the girly half of me does, and they too think that I should try and flirt with him and see how that goes.
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This is why
I assume you will do something. You've made it clear (to me anyway) that you want him to flirt back with you. You want him to reciprocate your feelings for him. If he were to flirt back do you really think you would have the strength or will power to resist the temptation of flirting back and allowing more and more to happen between the two of you? The reason you shouldn't hang with him anymore is that you need to have a clean break from him to sort out your relationship issues. You recognize that this is a problem and that you feel you need therapy to have a meaningful relationship, yet you try to justify your actions by saying that it is a harmless "secret". I agree that it would be harmless if you know that it is only in your head, and that you would never allow it to go further. But I feel that you would act on your impulses and that it is not harmless but harmful for all parties involved. People will be hurt if you follow through with your feelings. (((((neri)))))
I truly hope you find the strength to deal with this problem.