Thread: so much sadness
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Old Aug 06, 2010, 10:06 AM
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Originally Posted by zooropa View Post
I guess I'm having some kind of crisis of faith (in therapy) over here. It has just occurred to me how horrible I feel. Really, really horrible. And this is supposed to be HELPING me? I keep saying I trust my T and I trust the process, but I feel like I've just been hit over the head with the clue stick. THERAPY IS NOT HELPING.

Telling my story is not helping. I feel exponentially worse now than I did this time last week, and the reason is therapy. The reason is going in there week after week and going over trauma and reliving it. Reliving it all week, alone, in the dark and every time I let down my guard. Forcing myself to open up to my T only to have to go through the pain of being alone with the feelings dredged up in all those hours between sessions.

Sure, T is with me, when I'm there in her office. But as soon as I walk out the door I'm alone with this stuff and I have to say, I think I'm better off alone with it buried than alone with it unearthed and gnawing on my heart.
What skills are you using? The point of learning the DBT skills before working through trauma is so that you don't relive it all week. When you call T, do you ever ask her for skills coaching to help you through the rough moments? Feeling the connection with T is just one part of it. The skills are there for you to use so that you can change the way you are feeling in the moment. It's good to feel the pain, but not constantly. Can you watch a funny movie? How about going for a mindfulness walk? Just observe and describe your surroundings and bring your attention to where you are right now. What else can you do to help yourself cope?