You know what. That just reminded me of some guy I dated in the past. His girlfriend left him after 6 years or so because he didn't commit. He was alone in his corner, going out with buddies, ignoring women. As soon as he was with me, he started flirting with very woman at the office. Probably a way to feel free, unattached. When I noticed this I stopped seing him.
He was always guarded. It was probably more of an infatuation than love.
So of course I wonder if it's not the same here. If I am not a specialist of those cases. But I am not enjoying any of this so I don't see what could motivate me to look for that. I am too patient. That's true.
What made me think of this old story is the fact that this one said he "imagined me as a painter, an artistic person". The other one always said he was imagining a lot. Daytime scenarios, you know. So of course, this made all alarm bells ring (more than the girlfriend story!).
On the other hand, the other one wasn't exactly romantic. This one seems to be. Don't ask me why. He thinks a man has to take care of a woman. That's very old-fashioned but I thought it was sweet.
I am trying to find a pattern but it is not that easy. Is it the same ? Hence : will it be the same ?