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Old Aug 06, 2010, 12:51 PM
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Originally Posted by niesha View Post
What does it mean when your boyfriend tells you out the blue that another girls like him, and he just volunteered to tell her name where she was from and how old she was?please help
It means he's being insensitive to your needs, and giving you too much information. It may mean that he is harboring some anger toward you, and is insensitive to your needs. Are you depressed often? On top of his being insensitive to your needs he's also insensitive to your feelings. Have you expressed your confusion over his behavior? Because, if he's doing this and your not expressing that this is bothering you, then there are two things happening, one he may be trying to get out of the relationship, two, he may be trying to get you to acknowledge him. He's doing it awkwardly and perhaps in a immature way, but he is certainly trying to get something out of you.

Do you have a good support system? A doctor? Any friends in which you could confide? Family member that you could talk to? Your feelings, your pain, your happiness, your strength, etc..is your responsibility. Surround yourself with support before approaching him with the question: why are you telling me these things? Be frank, gentle and open, and ready for any answer. You may not like the answer, and it may hurt tremendously, that's why you get the support system first. However, if it turns out well, they you should let him that his behavior was troublesome and the in the future, if he needs to talk to you about anything, he should say so, and not be childish about it. (you may substitute childish, if you like).

So let me ask you, why do you think he is saying to you by this? Not what he is saying, but why? Are you afraid to ask him why?

Be strong.