personally, I have spent the last 20 years trying to just "let it go" and pretend it didn't happen. That didn't work out for me so well. I really believe that the only way to TRULY let go is to let it go through me. I can't just drop it behind me, I've tried that for years. But I can let it pass through me and then it will go away forever. I hope. That's what my T and lots of wise people here have taught me, anyway.