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I just want to say, sooo gently, that denying our experience and truly letting go might not be the same thing.

I spent years and years and YEARS thinking I had "let go" and "moved on", when all I was really doing was suppressing my thoughts and my feelings. It took a LOT of energy and more than a few bad coping skills to pull it off. I managed to not feel the bad feelings, but I didn't get to feel good feelings either.

I couldn't deny it forever, it got to be too much and I started falling apart.

BUT...working through my story and my feelings in therapy has brought me to a point where I don't *have* to deny stuff anymore. My experience is still my experience, but it's just *part* of my life. I have feelings now, because I don't have to run from them anymore.

I remember telling my T that I wanted to just put everything in a box and forget about it, and him telling me that I could do that, but that eventually it would come back - and I knew he was right, because I had tried that, again and again, and it never worked for long.

I guess those are my thoughts after I read what you wrote.

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