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Originally Posted by Oceanwave
I sometimes wonder whether it is possible simply to move on, put things behind me and start a completely new phase in my life.
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I think having some new goals in one's life can add a lot of positive. Maybe you can't do the moving on and starting new things completely simultaneously, but maybe while you are working on letting go, you can also be working on starting anew. That is kind of like the approach I am taking....
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Originally Posted by Oceanwave
Maybe it's just easier to not let go.
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It can indeed be very hard to move past the pain. It's hard work, takes courage--I know you've heard those things before. I think my therapist is really helpful to me here, because he serves as a witness to my work and progress. That's a very valuable role. He has seen a lot of what I have been through and accomplished in the last few years. I treasure his knowledge of my trying to turn my life around.
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Originally Posted by Oceanwave
How about I just try now and let go, and see what happens. From now on I'm a different person, without the baggage. It already feels quite liberating.
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Are you still feeling liberated? If this approach works for you, then great! Please report back.
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Originally Posted by Oceanwave
Who would like to try it with me? And then we report back, after the experiment is over, what's better: pain or no pain.
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I think many of us are working on this in our own ways and we do report back here on our progress and setbacks. Please join us! (Wait, you already have.
) Hope it is OK to offer some hugs:
