Well aren't you all making a whole bunch of assumptions there. First of all, how do you know his wife doesn't know? As far as I know, he hasn't tried to hide any of this from anyone. Second, though not that it has anything to do with anything, they don't have children. I don't think it matters here, the "Won't someone think of the children!" angle just bothers me since it isn't accurate.

In my opinion that "don't do to others what you don't want done to you" stuff doesn't apply to me in this instance, because if I had a husband and he spent time with other women, I'd blame the husband! Ofcourse it's always the husband's job to consider his wife's feelings. And maybe she isn't as possessive as I am, they seem to do a lot of stuff apart from one another, so who's to say she isn't fine with him having female friends.

Rhiannonsmoon: I don't understand any people, but by that particular comment I meant mainly my friends. Which could be easier to realize, if you hadn't unfairly edited the quote to your liking. The first friend to urge me to go for it was betrayed by her former fiance, and she's still pissed about that. So I don't understand her logic there, unless she, like me, doesn't think it's the "other woman's" fault if the husband can't keep it in his pants. I asked her if she thought I was a bad person if I went to see him, eventhough he's married, and she said she would go too if she was in the same situation. I was surprised she said that, but it shows not everyone has the same moral standard.

And I DON'T want you to tell me "hey go for it", but I don't appreciate being attacked either. Questionable character? Well duh, I'm a total mess

Since I've got you all ticked off anyway, I might aswell tell you I'm not even sure I want him all to myself. Heck, I really truly believe I'd like it better if he wasn't married so things could be at least slightly simpler (not that anything in this annoying life is ever simple) and it'd be okay to have some guilt-free fun, but I don't think I would want to commit to anything, have to compromise about anything, or to be in any way restricted by anyone. Though if I ever were to sort through those issues, he is the kind of man I can see myself not getting bored with. For now, though it does seriously bother me that I'm incapable of even understanding how a relationship "works" and how and why people don't get sick of eachother after few months, and how because of this I'm probably doomed to be alone forever, life just feels too short and the hours of the day too few to start figuring that out Especially when I just rather not talk about stuff that makes me uncomfortable and anxious, but do something that gives me joy instead. Maybe in the next life..