((((( elliemay )))) It sounds like that is a huge trigger for you - to have unresolved conversation that you want to address. ? That happens to be one of my triggers. I HATE it when my boss at the start of the day says "Can you swing by my office before you leave today?" UUUUUUGGGGGG!!!!! It took a ton of work for me to figure out why that was so hard on me. Finally figured out it was because my mom would catch us doing something like playing with the water hose and then would say "Wait till your dad gets home!" At which point we all had to spend hours awaiting the punishment (which for me involved the CSA -- ICKKKKK !!!!) So needless to say, that being on "hold" drives me insane.

Maybe you have something that is in the past that is making it much harder to wait on T to get back to deal with this?