"but some guys don't like real to me at all....I like to find an average person however I need to feel that chemistry too....but the chemistry doesn't come just with looking at their photos....I need to read their profiles and their emails....some are such a turn off....I think I'm so picky or same thing that you said here "Internet dating is a hard process"

You are so right marjan....it is a long, hard process. It would be much better to take the time and figure a person out rather than being too eager. HOwever, we can become so involved in the analysis, that we don't allow the fun. I am 45 and single. Had one bad marriage which ended in 1995, and a bad engagement which ended in 2005. Now, I am enjoying life exploring my own life options. I tried the dating websites, paid and free. It seemed to me that computerized matchups were leaving out most of the men I actually was interested in. Many times we just need to relax and walk away from the date seeking and let life be enjoyed as it is. Enjoy yourself, with or without a man.