MUE, it is all about learning. No one with issues can identify their feelings and speak about them in the moment to get their needs met at first. If we could have done that we wouldn't have needed therapy! You did the right thing. 1) You figured out that you didn't like what happened. 2) You figured out what you didn't like about it and how you felt about it. 3) You spoke out in order to meet your needs. You did great! This is a process and one day you will figure it out much faster and act right away. You will get there gradually. Me, well, I don't think fast and never will so I always come back the next day and finish up and this is A okay with me. It isn't the speed but that we take care of it.