were you talking about detachment? that is what i gathered from the context of your posts. i don't think it's possible to truly love and be detached. love requires caring, involvement, presence, desire, and many other things. rightly ordering our desires seems a better way to go imo. meaning very simply, we hold onto the good and let go of the bad. to be engaged but not enmeshed. to care and risk getting hurt but to also risk finding love. i'll leave you with my paraphrase of sundar singh:

"to eliminate all desire is yet a desire" ~ paraphrase of a longer passage by sadhu sundar singh