(((((((((((((((((((( bebop and dad )))))))))))))))))))))))

I completely understand where you are coming from hon. I went through the same thing when my mom passed in 1981 from brain cancer. We grieved with the dx, we grieved with the surgery, we grieved through the radiation that did absolutely nothing to help. Then we grieved when she slipped away.

Yes, they are different types of grieving but they hurt none the less. There is just no easy way to go through these things. But, I agree wholeheartedly with (((((((( EJ )))))))))), preplanning my mom's funeral was the best gift I could give her and myself as well. There are so many things that we have to do and trying to figure out all of that at a time when you're not thinking clearly is so very difficult. I actually got a sign from my mom, who at the time was not able to speak and didn't seem to be very "with it" about a week before she passed that it was getting closer. I won't go into what that sign was because this is your thread, not mine. Needless to say, it propelled me into planning everything that night. It was a huge weight off my shoulders.

Now, maybe this is already done and I truly hope it is. Just know that I understand how hard it is to celebrate the life he has left right now when grieving for the inevitable in a short time.

You're both in my thoughts and prayers my friend!