Emotionally, yes it has a lot to do with you. However, as teh courts see it, you are not in the picture. I agree with Tish in that your appearance, in the courtroom would be upsetting for the family unit involved. You can wait outside the court, out of the ex's view. Arrange to meet your boyfriend at a location after the hearing. If he is upset, let him vent. You can be a sounding board for hi,.

You said the financial costs of child support and legal fees are difficult? Understandably so but look at it this way...it shows he is responsible to his children. My ex never paid much to his kids and even moved to Sweden to get our of the courts tracking him, since Sweden is one country that does not participate in retrieving dead beat dads. The stresses of finance are difficult on anybody.The knowledge that eh lives up to his obligations shows a strong positive trait about him. Appreciate it.

Meanwhile, stay strong for yourself first hun. I admire your support for him and I am certian he appreciates it too. As the girlfriend, you have to walk a fine line. I applaud you hun. Keep your chin up.